Derek Rake Insider

"I'm a good guy - a virgin but not a pushover. I've given up a lot of chances because I want to wait to get married. I want to know whether there are ways to attract a girl that I can be happy with and let my bad side out when I want. I'm patient. Do you have anything that can help me step my game … [Read More...]

"How can I keep things going when in a relationship? How can I make sure we stay great after two weeks? (Also, am I trying to be too perfect here?) With so many obstacles, insecurities, test failure, and some bad luck, things seem to have changed with us." - Sean B. from North Kingstown, RI Derek … [Read More...]

"I'm quite good with openers, but sometimes, that's as far as I get. I hardly ask for phone numbers since I feel like the chance to do so never really comes out. Whenever I'm out, I'm either very cocky or very nice. None of these mindsets work. If I'm nice, girls ignore me, but if I'm cocky, they … [Read More...]

"I'm getting out of a nasty four-year marriage right now. We were together for twice that long, in which she cheated around 13 times. I only found out recently that some of my kids might not even be mine. I'm telling you about this because I've finally come across the main reason why I put up with … [Read More...]

"I've met a few great women that I want to consider who aren't exactly 10s, but 8s and 9s. I'm not the greatest looking guy out there, but I'm not too shabby, either. There's this one girl I particularly like. I feel connected to her on various levels. What would be a great way to mention I want to … [Read More...]