Derek Rake Insider

"I like this friend of a friend who's a model, but I don't have a car, a job or money; I live in a dinky apartment; and I'm not even studying just yet (though hopefully will be in the following semester). This is why I have trouble talking to her a lot of the time. I kind of feel like she should be … [Read More...]

"So, if we touch each other, but don't kiss or have sex yet, would that still be considered the 'friend zone'?' - Bobby M. from New Rome, OH Derek Rake's Answer:- ell, you are basically stuck in the "friend zone" if you aren't getting anywhere with a girl at all. This usually isn't that big of a … [Read More...]

"Derek, my problem is that I always feel like I need female acceptance before getting comfortable around a girl. This means putting my heart out there, telling her how much I like her, opening up about my past and my absolute lack of experience with women. Of course, this paves the way to a good … [Read More...]

"I haven't really had any problems when it comes to girls. I'd say I'm attractive. I've been with girls but haven't taken things up a level. One time, I really liked a girl and was playful with her. Later, she ended up liking me, but since I never made my move, she moved on. She left several weeks … [Read More...]

"Hey, my relationship has some new developments that require me to ask something. Basically, I learned that my girl has had a bad sexual past and she said that I was being too pushy and demanding by trying to escalate things. I don't know why she waited to tell me about this. (Btw, she's a virgin.) … [Read More...]