Derek Rake Insider

"Derek, my problem is that I always feel like I need female acceptance before getting comfortable around a girl. This means putting my heart out there, telling her how much I like her, opening up about my past and my absolute lack of experience with women. Of course, this paves the way to a good … [Read More...]

"I love your stuff and always read everything that you send, so thank you for that. Because of work and family problems, though, I haven't been on a date or had a relationship in years (that's no exaggeration!). Now that things have sort of let up a bit, I want to get back to the game somehow. Back … [Read More...]

"I live in another country right now and I don't speak the language here fluently. The thing is: not everyone here speaks English. I want to pick girls up, but I can't always find girls who can speak the same language as me. What can I do? I'm getting desperate and can't wait to leave this place but … [Read More...]

"Hi Derek! First of all, I want to say that I am a huge fan of The Rake Letter and I truly appreciate all of them. However, I have this huge problem. I currently reside in Japan and because I am Asian, I feel that the game works differently over here. I think girls here simply aren't social enough … [Read More...]

"I find it hard to start up conversations with girls in quiet places - whenever there's a cute girl at a quiet library, for example - and even when we're at the pool and everybody's around to listen. What's the rap when it comes to such situations? And when you're at the grocery, still getting yours … [Read More...]