Derek Rake Insider

"I have finally read your whole Rake Letter. I appear to be too busy sometimes that I forget to set time aside to read these things. I'm happy that I did this time, though, as I now feel like I go into that friend zone too fast. When I go downtown and see gorgeous women, my approach skills seem to … [Read More...]

"My question is one that I believe several guys will relate to. Simply put, what advice can you give to a guy who wants to start fresh? I have personally had some success in my younger high school and college days. I had several girlfriends and occasional friends with benefits, but always knew it … [Read More...]

"I just want some advice on some things. I met this great lady whom I have a strictly sexual relationship with - friends with benefits, if you will. However, being friends is the worst wrench through it all. She is hot but has huge problems because of how past lovers have treated her - one of … [Read More...]

"Hi Derek! First of all, I want to say that I am a huge fan of The Rake Letter and I truly appreciate all of them. However, I have this huge problem. I currently reside in Japan and because I am Asian, I feel that the game works differently over here. I think girls here simply aren't social enough … [Read More...]

"Recently, I got into a relationship with someone at my college and everything is great. She is my best friend now and we're escalating a lot faster than I thought possible (we're both virgins, by the way). Everything is actually so great that I'm afraid our relationship will start to get boring or … [Read More...]