Derek Rake Insider

"I went to a bar the other night and met a girl. I saw her from the moment she came in, but she had another guy with her. She randomly approached my table where I was sitting with some colleagues and went 'Wow, this is awkward.' I asked what she meant and she told me that she came with a friend … [Read More...]

"Hey Derek, I want to know how I can stay motivated in picking up women every day because I have come to realize that I do well when motivated - I kiss and get phone numbers, etc. However, I do want to keep up my motivation as much as I can." - James B. from Huntington, NY Derek Rake's … [Read More...]

"I have finally read your whole Rake Letter. I appear to be too busy sometimes that I forget to set time aside to read these things. I'm happy that I did this time, though, as I now feel like I go into that friend zone too fast. When I go downtown and see gorgeous women, my approach skills seem to … [Read More...]

"I find myself getting tired of games and even women. Now, don't take this the wrong way: I have no interest in switching teams. I think it just has something to do with the women that I meet, really. But what else can I do if I've lost interest in the games and if I only want to have sex with … [Read More...]

"Derek, my problem is that I always feel like I need female acceptance before getting comfortable around a girl. This means putting my heart out there, telling her how much I like her, opening up about my past and my absolute lack of experience with women. Of course, this paves the way to a good … [Read More...]