Truth: every relationship failure stems from a single lie.

Things start going downhill the moment she decides to be untruthful to you.

The good news is that you can gain the upperhand by mastering two essential skills: (1) lie detection, and (2) truth extraction.

Even better: if you already know Shogun Method, then it’s trivial to “retro-fit” your knowledge to quickly detect if she’s lying, and extract the truth from her (even if she’s unwilling to be honest with you.)

Take this quiz:

[INTERACTIVE QUIZ] Is She Lying To Your Face?

A full analysis follows, as well as a resource on how to use Shogun Method principles for lie detection and truth extraction.

Watch as Joker delivers a masterclass in seduction by using Fractionation on Harley Quinn, thereby transforming the latter into a frequent ally and devoted lover –

Let’s break down the interaction into the 3-step Fractionation framework that you are already familiar with:-

Step 1: Develop Intrigue

Joker leaves Harley a rose in her office as bait to lure her into his prison cell.

Step 2: Develop Rapport

Joker mildly teases Harley’s name, and as Harley begins to walk away, Joker does two things:-

1. Creates the “Us Against The World” frame – “This makes me feel there’s SOMEONE here I can relate to…”
2. Opens up an Intrigue Loop – “SOMEONE who might want to hear my secrets…”

Step 3: Fractionate

Remember that the Fractionation process involves alternating states of happiness and sadness (or even anger) in quick succession. Starting at 1:13, Joker starts to fractionate:-

1. Negative emotions – “My father used to beat me up quite badly…”
2. Positive emotions – “There was only one time I saw dad really happy…”
3. Joker then enthusiastically tells a story where he would entertain his father like a clown, and he would even drop his pants which was a sexual move (see Harley Quinn blush at 1:58).
4. At 2:11, Joker then dropped the “bombshell” in the midst of the laughter – “Then he broke my nose.” Genius.

Interestingly, during the epilogue, Hayley Quinn would contrast the appeal of the “misunderstood” Joker with the “self-righteous” Batman. In the end, she conceded that “as unprofessional as it sounds, I have fallen in love with my patient.”

For more examples of covert persuasion routines and patterns (including the infamous Dark Shadow – which has possibly 200% the strength of Fractionation when done correctly), refer to the Shogun Sequences Handbook.

As far as physical escalation goes, if there’s one thing that you should remember then it is this – there’s never a “Big Moment”. The typical guy would take a woman out on a date and then hopes to be able to score a kiss at the end of the evening. As the date progresses, he gets closer and closer to the “Big Moment” when he has to make his move and kiss the woman. This is a setup for failure.

So here’s the deal. If you somewhat screw up your attempt to kiss her, it would well be your last attempt because women are hard-wired to be unforgiving when it comes to physical escalation. You see, due to their societal conditioning, they have the fantasy of meeting the perfect guy, about how perfect the date will be, and how every single part of the romance feels natural and just right.

The seasoned seducer (i.e. someone who has downloaded our entire knowledge base into his brain!) will know that the “Big Moment” is a fallacy, and you don’t have to have the “go in for the kill” mindset. Instead, he will masterfully execute a natural, seamless flow of moments where he would touch her – from the very early stages (i.e. when he first meets her) right up to sex. No one moment should stick out, and as such, to her, it just feels natural to escalate from one stage to the next. In short, there’s no one moment where she feels that you’re making a move on her.

It’s All About Pacing Her

The most important thing about physical escalation is the specific pacing between the physical touches, and never about the specific touches. (If you’re already a user of the Dark Rake Method then you’ll see lots of similarities here – it’s not what you say, but how you pace your hypnotic lines and stack them up one against another).

There must be alternating moments of sexual tension as well as the buildup of chemistry which you create not only through touching, but also through your conversations as well. In addition, if you’ve already matched her VAKSOG sensory modes (see Dark Rapport) then physical escalation is quite trivial, really.

Remember that touching does NOT always have to be sexual. Indeed, some of the more powerful kino techniques center around anchoring – a technique which we have already covered in the previous Derek Rake Insider’s Lab guide.

Before you initiate any attempts to escalate physically, make sure that you have laid the foundational work by doing the following:-

1. You are controlling the frame and are building sufficient rapport. Read this guide.
2. You are demonstrating a lack of neediness.
3. You have reached the hook point.

You will notice that there are moments where you should escalate, and if you miss these moments then her interest in you will fall off a cliff quickly. Now the question on “how to calibrate” is out of scope as far as this guide is concerned, but here’s a good rule of thumb: if her interest in you does not dip (i.e. she keeps talking to you) then you should escalate, and escalate quickly.

Here’s some form of physical touching:-

• Pulling hair
• Smelling hair
• Hand on her butt
• Hand on her cheeks
• Arm around waist
• Hand on knee
• Hand on elbows
• Hand on hand
• Hand on lap
• Whispering into ear
• Embracing from front
• Embracing from behind
• Peck on cheek
• Peck on lips

What’s important when it comes to physical escalation is that the act must be simple and natural: it shouldn’t seem like you’re trying to “get somewhere” with her. When she displays some level of discomfort then pull back immediately. Male dominance has its place, but never force your way with a woman: apart from being counter-productive, you’ll also come across as a beta jerk.

Push/Pull Physical Escalation

The common belief is that guys should always escalate, and women should always resist. That is hogwash. You should know that guys should both escalate and resist – in fact, if you’ve pulled off a covert seduction technique such as Fractionation or the infamous Kinesthetic Sequence from the Shogun Sequences Handbook (or something more specialized like the Boyfriend Destroyer) then you’ll appreciate the effectiveness of the escalate/resist, or its other more generic moniker: push/pull.

When you are physically close to a woman, you’re introducing sexual tension into the interaction. It depends on her comfort level (and it’s different from women to women), but if there’s too much discomfort then she will push you away. This response is undesirable because you want her to be drawn to you, not otherwise.

Therefore, whenever you introduce sexual tension, understand that the next step is for you to pull away (before she does). You can do this either physically (brush her hands off) or verbally (by disqualifying her). When you push her away, you increase her attraction to you (as long as you don’t just keep pushing her away). When she attempts to get closer to you as a result of you pushing her away, then you’ve created space for further escalation.

So here’s the Derek Rake Insider Labs formula for rapid physical escalation:-

ADDENDUM: I’ve been asked if the advice is relevant in situations where an ex-girlfriend or ex-wife is involved. The answer is YES. In your attempts to get an ex back, you’ll need to “ReSeduce” her (see this), and in many cases you’re starting back from square one anyways. It’s therefore immaterial as to whether you have slept with the woman before or not… you’ll still have to (re)build rapport and escalate physically until you’ve successfully re-seduced her.

In the previous guide, we have shared with you what we call the “It’s All Your Fault” technique which you can use as rapport deepener during the Intrigue stage – click here if you’ve missed it. What makes this technique deadly effective is its underlying principle of Role Reversal – which you should already know from Sonic Seduction that it’s the key behind super fast rapport building irrespective of what the technique you use – storytelling, cold reading, etc.

In this Derek Rake Insider guide we are going to go deep into Role Reversal. The best (and some say, only) role to play is one which gives you higher social value than the woman that you want to seduce. Indeed, this should already be ingrained inside your reality because if it is not, she will never find you to be attractive. Therefore, it’s important that you convey a frame where you’re the screener since she’s the one who wants to be with you and is chasing after you.

One way to know that you have properly instilled this frame is that she will constantly be qualifying herself to you. Usually, when you have just met a woman, she will be the one (by default) who will hold this frame. You must break out from this beta frame and instead use it for yourself.

The danger of staying inside this beta frame for too long is that nine times out of then you’ll end up in the dreaded Friend Zone. The key to avoiding the Friend Zone or to get out if you’re already in it is to build real Rapport by matching her sensory modes.

When you’ve met a woman, lightly touch her at her non-sexual spots on her body (i.e. her elbows, palms, shoulders are fine. Avoid her boobs, inner thighs, buttocks). Say, “You know what, you’re pretty good at this.” When she asks you what you mean, you say, “Your social skills have just earned you two minutes of my time. Well done.” Then, smile and then move forward.

Understand the four underlying assumptions behind this interaction:

1. You’re controlling the frame, not her.
2. You’re the prize, and she has “earned” some of your time.
3. You’re in the position to say that she’s “good” (or bad).
4. You have the power to decide whether to prolong or cut short the interaction.

Pushing Her Red Hot Attraction Button

Remember that a woman can’t decide who to be attracted to – as long as you push her bright red attraction button then she’ll have the hots for you. Back to the previous example – if you just take any woman you can get then you must be a loser. Conversely, therefore, must also be true – if you’re selective then you must be a winner. A woman’s emotions are hard-wired to respond to winners, and therefore she will have no choice but to be attracted to you irrespective of circumstance (yes, even if she has a boyfriend; in such a case, then this will be foundational to your Boyfriend Destroyer Sequences).

Here are some Role Reversal lines which you can use to push her Attraction Buttons:-

• “Let’s just be friends.” (Powerful!)
• “But I barely know you.”
• “XXX seems perfect for you.” (XXX is some random beta male that both of you know)
• “You’re a really nice woman. Somewhat safe, too.”
• “Wait. Why are you groping me?”
• “You only have one thing in mind, just like other women, I swear!”
• “I’m wearing yesterday’s underwear so that nothing happens tonight.” (Make sure you’ve built enough rapport before using this)
• “I’m not ready for a girlfriend now.”
• “Are you usually this fast / forward?” (Warning: don’t use the word “easy”)
• “You’re just interested in my good looks.” (Works especially well when you’re NOT good looking)
• “Hands off me. It’s not free, you know!”
• “Geez, I don’t do that with women I barely know.”
• “I just need to know you better.”
• “Hey, let’s take things slow.”
• “You can buy me a drink, but don’t think you’re getting something.”

Memorize some of these lines, and use them – what’s often more important is HOW you deliver those lines than the lines themselves. Again, your frame must be congruent, and even if it’s not, use those lines to create the impression that you’re the prize.

This is especially true when you’re delivering a Shogun Sequence – merely reciting the routine will not help if you’re not congruent with the story that you’re telling. For that reason, it’s important that when you use any one of the 25 Shogun Sequences inside the Shogun Sequences Handbook, you must check the accompanying instructions inside the Notes From The Field document to help you deliver the Sequences at your best and sidestep any potential pitfalls and mistakes.

Finally, remember that the lines don’t have to be “true” – i.e. just because you accuse her of “taking things too fast” doesn’t mean that it has got to be the reality. Remember: you’re misinterpreting the situation on purpose. If you pull this off successfully, she will be sucked into your reality and respond to you as if your “accusations” were true. You’ll know that you’ve made it as a seducer when you’re able to impose your frame on any woman and trap her inside your reality.

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This is one of the most advanced tactics that we teach here inside the Derek Rake Insider’s Lab, and once you master this technique, you’ll get much more favorable responses from women. Use this technique in tandem with the Sonic Rapport Modules inside Sonic Seduction and you’ll pretty much nail it when it comes to building rapport and emotional connection with women.

Colin Simone (our lead instructor who is also the founder of the Conversational Seduction method) calls this the “It’s All Your Fault” technique. Here’s what it entails…

Blame her for everything.

Blame her for getting attracted to her.

Blame her for the seductive moves that you make on her.

You don’t do this seriously, of course. Remember that it’s all fun and games when you tease and flirt. Say it with a slight grin.

For example, let’s say you’re chatting with a girl for some 15 minutes. For maximum effect, you may even have run a couple of Shogun Sequences on her (in particular, the Deep Rapport Builder), and you’ve placed multiple anchors on her (see this). She’s displaying signs of interest by playing along and laughing at your jokes. You slowly move closer to her, wrap your arms gently (but not in a creepy way) around her waist, and look into her eyes.

Say: “Why do you do this to me? You’re making me fancy you. It’s all your fault.”

“Why Are You Doing This To Me?”

You can also use this when you want to escalate with her physically (for example, when you move in for your first kiss with her). Here’s what you do:-

Ask her: “Why are you doing this to me?”

She’ll ask you what you mean. Then, you say,

“Making her fall for you like this. You know, I’m trying not to hook up with anyone right now. Not good! I may just have to kiss you next, and it’s all your fault.”

Of course, you don’t have to use the line word-for-word, but with the right tone of voice and delivery intensity (as well as heaps of congruence!) she’ll be aroused and feel sexually excited.

This is why the “It’s All Your Fault” line works so well…

You’re “turning the tables” on her and implying that SHE’s the one who is putting in the effort to make you like her. Remember that if your frame is stronger than hers than she will be absorbed into YOUR frame and feel that she’s the one who is working to EARN your affections.

By saying “I may just have to kiss you next, but it’s all your fault”, you’re doing THREE important things using that simple one-liner:-

1. You’re introducing sexual tension into the conversation (important so that you don’t get friend-zoned)
2. You’re planting the idea of getting kissed into her mind
3. You’re gradually helping her to be absorbed into your frame (more on framing in a future Insider Labs guide)

So as long she doesn’t fight back, she will be “accepting” the fact that she’ll kiss you, and she will believe that “it’s her fault” that the kiss takes place.

Of course, this works especially well if you are able to create (and hold) a strong frame going into the interaction. We’ll publish a comprehensive Frame Control guide in a future Insider Labs post – watch this space.

What I am about to say may surprise you, or even anger you. It may even make me a “target” of hatred by other dating coaches, and creating ill-will is not what I enjoy doing, but since this is a private area which can’t be accessed freely by outsiders (only the best of my paid clients get access to this blog – you are one of them if you’re reading this now :)) I’m going to say what I am going to say anyway.

You may already be suspecting this but I am going to confirm this anyhow. You’ve been lied to for a long, long time about how to succeed with women.

If you have been looking on the Internet for dating advice, then you may have stumbled upon what’s commonly known as the “Pickup Artist” (PUA) or “Seduction” community. You may even have grown to be familiar with some of the characters central to the community. Some of the more famous players in the PUA community are Mystery, a magician showman who would advocate dressing up outlandishly to attract women (“peacocking” in PUA lingo) and Neil “Style” Strauss, the New York Times journalist who wrote a bestseller chronicling his time as a PUA (and Mystery’s best friend).

Listen: I am not saying that Mystery and Neil Strauss are charlatans – far from it. But for one legitimate dating guru that emerges from this community there are probably ten others who are rehashing content and republishing the same techniques to make money with their crappy rehashed ebooks.

I want you to be aware that something more sinister is at play here. Because dating coaching services have become big, multi-million businesses since the days of Mystery and Neil Strauss, it has attracted its fair share of the kind of hustlers who would use bait-and-switch tactics and questionable sales practices.

The dodgiest of these dodgy sales practices (which I find truly despicable) is undoubtedly what’s called the “Forced Continuity”. When you buy a PUA ebook, you may have unwittingly enrolled into a “subscription” service through the fine print on the checkout page. If you have been billed multiple times on your credit card for some “subscription” service you don’t remember signed up for, then you’ve been a victim of a Forced Continuity scam.

And that’s not all. Because selling dating ebooks is so profitable, these Fake Gurus want you to continue spending money with them as long as possible, and as such, it’s not in their interest for you to solve your relationship problems. You see, if you don’t stop sucking with women, you’ll keep buying their products, and they’ll make more money off you.

In short, dating ebooks are designed to make you fail. I know that sounds really awful, but it’s the truth. 🙁

And not only that… these Fake Gurus spread what I call the Deadly Dating Lies, and these insidious lies have been systematically fed into your minds over the years, sabotaging your chances to be successful with women. And if you have ever believed these lies, I want you to know that it’s not your fault… not even the smartest guy on earth would have “survived” the relentless and unending barrage of misinformation coming in all directions, online and offline.

What you are going to read next is where your redemption is. I’m going to expose each of these lies so that you can de-program yourself completely and also get your defenses up whenever you get lied to again by these Fake Gurus to peddle their B.S. ebooks.

Deadly Dating Lie #1: “To Attract Women, You Should Use Complicated Routines, Openers, Stories, Lines And Tricks That Demonstrate High Value”

This lie really pisses me off not only because it’s blatantly false but also because it was completely cooked up to mislead and confuse. And like most guys, I was completely duped into believing this lie after seeing it in a couple of “seduction” products when I was just starting out.

Remember the earlier story I told you about Brandy? Back then, I had tried every single “seduction” trick I learned from pickup artist blogs and ebooks, and yet my failure with her was nothing short but spectacularly humiliating.

So this is what I want you to do: forget every single “Seduction / Pickup Artist” tricks you have learned: from ebooks, blogs, wherever. In particular, stop using “Canned Routines” and “Openers” that “Demonstrate High Value” which will do you more harm than good.

Trust me on this: nothing turns a woman off more than hearing the same old, tired pickup lines used by countless of other guys of “Pickup Artist” wannabes out there.

Instead of relying on these doubtful techniques, you, as a Derek Rake client should already know better to use mind control and hypnosis-based conversational patterns. You should also know that you shouldn’t be doing most of the talking (like most “Pickup Artists” would), and instead, you should get her to talk about the right themes and topics… so that you can then guide her to generate intense emotions… and finally, link those wonderful romantic emotions to you.

(That was the basic underlying structure of the Dark Rake Method in case you’re wondering.)

In short, I want you to remember this: you don’t need to use pickup lines or perform tricks like a dancing monkey to make a woman like you, period.

Deadly Dating Lie #2: “You Need To Sleep With A Lot Of Women To Be Happy”

The society pushes sex on everyone, and that’s a fact. We have been conditioned to think that a guy who has had sex with more women is the “Alpha Male”.

Now I bet that you’ve maybe even believed this at one point in your life… and yet this is not even close to the truth.

The fact is that higher number of sex partners doesn’t necessarily indicate higher level of happiness. You know it’s true.

And you know what about the “Alpha Male” that we mentioned about? He could be someone with a huge intimacy void that he hopes to fill by sleeping with lots of women.

For many guys, what makes them happy is surprisingly simple. They just want to stop feeling powerless with women, and they want more control in their relationships. I know this, because I am one of those guys.

Don’t get me wrong now. My programs will give you all that power and control that you want, and if you’re looking to use that power to sleep with as many women as you can, I want you to know that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.

There is one thing I want you to promise me however. Because of how potent this knowledge is, the possibility of it getting misused to harm women is very real, and so I want you to agree to use my programs ethically and responsibly. Use my material to pursue your own happiness, but not at the expense of the women that you are going to use my material on. Deal?

Deadly Dating Lie #3: “There’s Something Wrong With You”

The problem with generic dating (or “seduction”) advice is that it seems that there is always more to do.

You can always be more confident!

You can always dress better!

You can always learn to communicate with women more effectively!

Of course, if you’re someone who is already somewhat decent with women, then all these are fine because it’s natural and feels good to continually improve yourself.

However, for a guy who constantly gets rejected by women, telling him that being “more confident” will solve all his problems with women is a horrible lie.

Now I’m sure you understand why generic dating advice like “build your confidence” or “make her laugh” or pickup artist stuff like “be cocky but funny” or “use pickup lines” are junky at best, and can be downright cruel at worst.

And the truth is that these pseudo-advice is what the fake Gurus use to mislead you, and the longer stay in the dark, the more money these crooks are going to make from selling more of their worthless “Seduction / Pickup Artist” products to you.

If you are one of the millions that have fell victim to these lies, then you need to decide now to accept the truth because if you don’t, you’ll probably never end up with any woman at all. I know that sounds rather harsh, but hear me out…

I understand this completely because before I stumbled upon the solution, I thought I was “unlovable”… and would end up being lonely forever.

Listen: I don’t want you to be lonely for the rest of your life. You are now my client, and it is my duty to steer you back to the right path.

Even though your struggles are directly due to misinformation and lies that have been fed into your brain all these years, I want you to recognize that it’s now your responsibility to resolve all your relationship problems. Not my responsibility, but yours.

And the first step you need to take is to shun “Pickup Artist” and “Seduction” advice completely, and instead embrace the “dark side” of Mind Control Attraction like the rest of us.

Deal?