“I’ve liked this chick Debbie for a while now. I was dating another girl before (we were even engaged) for more than two years, after which my best friend Benjamin began to date Debbie. They were the other couple during board games night. We also had parties where at one point my ex and I had sex with them in the room and almost led up to a foursome. The whole time I was sleeping with my ex, I saw Debbie’s tits in front of me.
Anyway, these relationships both dissolved and my best friend and my ex ended up having sex while I was still hoping to fix things with my ex-fiancee. My best friend knew what I was trying to do at the time, too. I even told him I would never be okay with him sleeping with her, if it came up, hypothetically. Derek, you can only imagine how stunned and angry I was and, for revenge, I really wanted to fuck his ex – hard.
That’s when I started pursuing it. However, I started to like her more and more the longer I pursued her. We threw several parties together and once, while setting up a party, I started talking to her about sex. She told me she isn’t fond of sex because it doesn’t turn her on and she has only experienced it with one other guy before. I explained that this had something to do with never having an orgasm before.
Anyway, I ended up massaging her back and even convinced her to remove her bra. I couldn’t escalate from there, though. It somehow just did not felt right. I’m thinking it had to do with weak sexual tension and our nine-year age gap and just being scared of already being stuck in the friend zone (I’m pretty sure we’re still in it).
After that, she visited me one time and we ended up talking. Then, I let her know I wanted to date her and she was, naturally put on the spot. She said she was already dating someone, but only because that guy was so persistent.
That’s when I came across SeductionOnSteroids. Now, we talk every now and then and I played her a little through text, but nothing has materialized yet. Plus, she appears to be with another new guy because she got scared when he said he was in prison for something stupid – shooting at somebody else’s house or something. I basically truly care about her but don’t know what to do anymore.” – David M. from San Francisco, CA
Derek Rake’s Answer:-
Your “friend” sure is an asshole. I love the story, though, so I kept it all here. π
I am going to tell you what to do now. And, provided you follow all the advice found in SeductionOnSteroids, you won’t have any trouble getting her to jump into bed with you. Let’s go.
Your anxiousness to sleep with her is based on the objective of getting revenge on your friend. Well, this anxiousness is why you’re screwing up. For example, she was “put on the spot” when you said you wanted to date her. You basically forced her into making a decision – a massive no-no. See, whenever somebody gets forced into making a decision, they tend to choose not to change anything. This leads to the same thing over and over.
You definitely got the sexual tension thing going, though. And you should make sure to use a ton of intrigue when texting her. It is also alright to take your time before sleeping with her.
Since she has no sexual experience, sex will be a huge step for her. Because of this, you need to become a good friend to her first. Although you can be friends who do physical stuff like hooking up and making out, you still need to be friends.
Then, take things from there and relax while taking things step by step. Follow the steps in SeductionOnSteroids. Enjoy. Nothing would be better than sweet revenge in the end.