“I read SeductionOnSteroids right after my difficult divorce, which lasted for two years and drained out my self-confidence. It must be clear that my ex-wife was the one who cast me aside and told me to leave. This is why I feel for your experience since this woman was somebody I married and had kids with because I felt like nobody else would want me for who I am. I was pretty stupid back then, yes, and my life concept was ridiculous, too. Well, your advice truly made things clearer for me – things that I never realized until I actually read them on paper. Not long after reading the book, I got together with a great Brazilian woman and I am still with her. She cooks for me, follows my ideas on fun and activities, is up for sex anytime and is always there to support my ambitions and dreams.
Now, I have a question: how can I maintain the momentum in this type of relationship? I know there are a lot of pitfalls in a relationship for a serious man and a lot of ways to get sucked into female agendas or to lose control, so do you have any thoughts or advice on this?” – Joseph W. from New York, NY
Derek Rake’s Answer:-
I always answer a guy’s question if he comes to me for advice. However, as you mentioned yourself, I will send them straight to DeadlySeduction.com. Even until now, no better book exists on dating women and creating dominance in a relationship, after all.
As for your question… Heck, first of all, I want to fucking pat you on the back. You have this amazing girl now after breaking free of that crappy relationship. I know that sounds blunt, but re-read that because that truly is an amazing accomplishment!
The majority of men feel like they are trapped and that they are unworthy of women they actually want and are therefore afraid to approach such women. But you actually got someone great who likes you just for being you. So massive props for that.
You’ve got a great question on momentum. A ton of relationships today stall and lose all of their passion, but this passion happens to be 50% of why good relationships stay good. The other half consists of a mixture of variety and dominance, with dominance taking on 45% and variety only the other 5%. So, stay passionate and dominant around her.
The greatest way to spark passion would be by adding some variety to the time that you spend together, so don’t be boring or predictable. For example, do you normally have sex in bed? Try spontaneous quickies on the dining table or in the kitchen for a change.
Or, do you always watch movies at home? Take a hike together instead or have a picnic nearby. If you’re losing that physical spark, plan days where you can’t touch each other until night time. This might sound corny and it is, sure, but it will do wonders for you because your girl will always wonder what else you have up your sleeve.
This is why women like the bad boys – they are unpredictable. And, if you stay dominant throughout your journey, your passionate momentum will never stop – even after your dates end. 🙂