“For a few weeks now, I have wondered whether girls simply do not like me or if they are intimidated or scared of me. Either way, I’m going nuts, man. Whenever I talk to one, we eventually enter this stage of awkward silence and I ask why she suddenly stopped talking.
Usually, they say I’m too intimidating. I think that’s completely bull shit, but I don’t know anymore, man.
I have decent looks, I played football in college, I’m in shape – I don’t know what to do anymore. I have been reading your work and you’ve got some great shit, Derek. I can’t even disagree with any of it.
So, if you get this email, send me some advice, man. I would love to know what the hell I’m messing up here.” – Lee G. from Long Beach , CA
Derek Rake’s Answer:-
Iย bet you have no problem with dominance. Since you played college football, I can bet you’re in good shape, too. Plus, you admit you look good. So some things are going well with you. You even have social status. So, you should be able to see why women find you intimidating. You have the looks + the body + status = intimidating. The math is that easy. ๐ What you seem to be missing is quite simple: warm dominance.
In a nutshell, you have to be friendlier, so women will feel less intimidated, if at all. After all, women need to feel trust and attraction before they can fall for you.
If you are intimidating, that means you are lacking in the trust department. To earn some trust, be playful, nice, protective and funny.
I have a friend called Reggie who is quite big and who women find intimidating – until he talks to them, that is. See, Reggie has this deep, soothing and low voice and he’s protective and quiet, too. Yes, he could definitely start some trouble with any guy if he wanted to, but he never does. He makes women feel at home.
So, try to change your overall energy.
If you don’t know what I mean, let me put it this way:
Don’t just seduce her in an animalistic manner, arouse her like the wind. Be protective, gentle and loving. This will make that intimidating trait of yours go away. ๐