“I truly appreciate your tips on dating β The Rake Letter is truly excellent reading. The tips really help in putting the girls at ease. Fortunately, I am lucky enough to know how to talk to strangers, most of all women, and how to get their numbers. My problem is that I have a friend – one who I have been friends with for more than 15 years now – who is a total cock-block. I was recently having a great talk with a beautiful, blonde, tall, hot girl. I got her phone number already and she already agreed to a date when my friend came over in a mean and negative way, telling her humiliating anecdotes about me. This mean behavior of his attracted her somehow and they’re dating now, though she sometimes calls me up to hang out. This isn’t the first time this has happened, either. As of late, whenever we are out together, he is mean to me whenever there are women present and it has really started to bug me. I always put him in a great light and I hate this pattern that I have come to notice. What can I do?” – Benjamin G. from Milwaukee, WI
Derek Rake’s Answer:-
That is definitely the effect I want to get from my dating advice – to help you show off your true natural self. After all, in a nutshell: it works.
To be honest, your friend appears to be a backstabbing asshole. Sorry if that’s harsh, but that’s the truth. You only have two options now, in my opinion:
1. Talk to him about it. Directly ask him what you just asked me and wait for his answer. He might just be jealous because you’re so successful with the ladies.
2. If this doesn’t bring about any results, leave him – or, at least, don’t bring him with you when you want to meet women. It sucks having to turn your back on an old friend, but if he acts that way with you, who needs enemies, right? With women, anyway. He might just act up when you’re out ‘hunting’, but he might still be a great bud anywhere else.
Hope this helped!