“I have been reading issues of The Rake Letter and find your ideas simply amazing!! It sounds like you have a lot of stories, tactics and tips on how to approach women and get them interested and such.
Well, I’m quite unlucky when it comes to women and have been for quite some time. I don’t even remember my last serious relationship and that truly bothers me. I don’t want a serious relationship right now or anything, though I do sometimes because of loneliness, like in the email you sent. That’s how I feel every now and then. I feel lonely, that nobody is around to listen, and though somebody will listen sometimes, I don’t trust that person enough to talk about my feelings the way I want to.
My most recent problem involves things going sour with a chick. We had two dates that weren’t really dates. I wanted to see if things could escalate, but instead, things went really bad. Me being so insecure sometimes made her not want to go out with me or even hang out with me anymore.
What should I do next? I don’t think I’ll ever go out with her again. We simply fight far too much.” – Lewis D. from Haverhill, MA
Derek Rake’s Answer:-
If you heard half of my stories, you would never believe them! I promise you that. Just last week, I threw a girl out of my house, had one ask me if I could be her sugardaddy and had her pay for dinner, etc. 🙂
Let’s focus on your questions for now, though, so you can gather up some stories for yourself:
I advise you to step back for several weeks. Around two or three. See, if she saw your tad bit of insecurity (which is alright; everybody has it), then contacting her straight away will make you look needy. She needs time to breathe. Then, by the time you contact her in a couple of weeks, she will remember the best parts of your conversations rather than the bad parts, giving you a fresh start.
For now, though, concentrate on getting more self-confident first. Talk to several more women to get comfortable around the opposite sex. Even just walking up to a girl for the time helps. After taking a couple of those baby steps, you will instantly be able to talk girls up more.
It’s great and you’ll get to fill your dating life with women, so all of your insecurities will get buried forever. 🙂 If you want a more permanent and faster solution for those insecurities, though, take a look at How To Seduce Out Of Your League. The information inside it helped me improve my self-confidence back when I was a beginner in the female department. The same will happen for you.