“The thought of becoming a pickup artist really hasn’t vibed with me, no matter what style it is – extravagant or natural. Still, I want choices when it comes to women. In fact, I hope to have great girlfriends that will make other guys cry. 🙂 Is this possible without actually becoming a pickup artist?” – Chad L. from Asquith, SK

Derek Rake’s Answer:-

I suffered from the exact same problem before, which is why I take different routes in becoming better with women.

Well, if you use the tactics that I teach in my newsletters, you can get any woman you want without having to become a so-called “pickup artist”. And, if you wish to get the entire system for yourself, just take a look at SeductionOnSteroids.

“Hi, a quick summary of what I’m dealing with: This girl was coming to my workplace for more than a year and throwing me crazy hints. I thought it was her way of being nice since she was hot, then I eventually asked her on a date and we hit things off. But when she started having two jobs, we started to stress out, too.

That’s when we started waiting for things to calm down and a crazy ex appeared out of nowhere. She ended things with him half a year before we met and she changed her phone number three times because he kept finding it somewhere. The third time, I didn’t get her number until two weeks afterwards. Then I learned this ex of hers threatened to end of her life if she ended things with him and the reason why I hadn’t heard from her for two weeks was because they had gotten back together. Now, she has filed a restraining order against him and she told me everything when we met up. Still, she says she has tons of emotional healing to go through before we can be together again. She wants to stay in touch in case the time ever gets right. What am I supposed to do? I have no idea why she got back in touch to meet up just to tell me she doesn’t want to go out with me at the moment!” – Edgar W. from Werneth, VIC

Derek Rake’s Answer:-

That is one troubled child you’ve got there. I think you should use her past and learn from it and keep her away from your overall dating life right now.

She will bring you trouble, and if you already have problems with her right now – before even having sex with her – just think about what will happen if you start a real relationship.

Girls like this are best left alone, so you can lead a much happier life. Trust me: I have gone through the same thing – the hassle, drama and mind games – before. The rewards simply aren’t worth the risks.

“For 3 years or so, I have been working on my personal game with your help. I can say that the tease tactics work very well and I am almost an expert at them. However, I have noticed that the responses to them tend to vary. Several women instantly hit the wavelength of what I’m doing and we almost move into a private chatroom although other people are there. Other women act like rabbits in front of headlights – they have no idea what they should do next, no matter how much I try to lead them. Some women blow both ways. Do you have any tips on controlling these things?” – Jonathan P. from East Ipswich, QLD

Derek Rake’s Answer:-

Most of your game seems to be done online and cockiness tends to have its drawbacks in that particular setting, mostly because women can’t see your body language or any other little self-depreciating or funny ticks of yours. This is why boys can use cocky-funny. However, if you wish to attract gorgeous women, you have to think like men and begin chatting in a dominant manner instead. As a matter of fact, you should try this:

When talking to girls online, use a ton of humble humor and refuse to buy into her mindset. This means that, if she wishes to act like you are her slave because she is of the fairer sex, laugh at her and tell her you can find her a puppy who will follow orders while you enjoy your time together. She’ll enjoy it. 🙂

“Hi Derek, I have some thoughts. I have no trouble entering a room to make friends with everybody there. On that same note, I have no trouble sitting a person down for a serious talk, either, and I truly enjoy both counts. I don’t do any of this in a superficial or glib way, either. I happen to love social interaction and conversations, in general.

However, when it comes to love, I have this problem of always being the ‘friend’. I’m sure you hear this problem a lot, but I struggle with it a lot. Sometimes, I feel so trapped by my overall social abilities because I simply do not get it. I’m very cool. Today, a person even called me a ‘legend’ and I have absolutely no trouble meeting new people. However, whenever I need to close with a girl I like, there seems to be something about attraction that I simply don’t fathom. As you mentioned before, you couldn’t find the missing puzzle piece. That’s how I feel. I have this whole social interaction puzzle in front of me, but I can’t find that one piece. I have no idea what the piece even is, but I don’t understand it.

I’m sorry that this was vague and long, but it’s true. I do not understand it. I don’t really expect you to solve this for me, most of all because I wasn’t too specific on the subject, but I do hope you can send me on the right path. That would be great. I already have SeductionOnSteroids, by the way, which I found phenomenal, so I don’t need more methods. I have all of it. I just don’t understand that one puzzle piece. Sorry this was long. If you actually read all of this, I truly appreciate it and I also appreciate the work you have already done for the male community in dealing with this particular part of life.” – Christopher F. from Columbus, OH

Derek Rake’s Answer:-

This is what I understood from that email: if you are a ‘legend’ yet still have trouble with the friend zone, then you just have to add more sexual tension to your game. It seems that your main problem has something to do with women not seeing you in a sexual manner. They see you as friends or something else. So try this out:

Next time you find yourself in the company of a girl, use a ton of incidental touches. This means brushing your skin on her without her knowing that you did so on purpose. For example, you can protectively hold her hand as you cross the street. Overall, touching will express yourself very well to her.

“Would it be possible for me to get my ex back if her breakup line was ‘We aren’t on the same path.’?” – Jeremy G. from Oakland, NJ

Derek Rake’s Answer:-

Yes. Just spend some time away and go back a few months later to game her the way you did the very first time. Always works. 🙂

“I’ve been playing the nice guy card all year and would like you to elaborate some things for me, as a kind of Christmas gift. What are your thoughts on attainability? I know this is old and you probably don’t teach it anymore, but I don’t have any other products, so it’s what I use. However, I don’t see much difference with European girls.

As for your stuff, it’s powerful and potent, but it’s always geared to relationships or nice guys. Every girl I approach with your stuff in mind requires lots of work like talking about passion, building tension and shape, and getting compliance. Don’t get me wrong. It’s great, but it’s also such a sniper thing to do – choose a girl and win her over hard – and when I don’t succeed, I feel like I have wasted lots of time.

(It’s been fun, but I really feel like I’ve wasted so much time when I could’ve gotten ten girls instead of just two.) Basically, I want to know what I can do to change and accelerate my game to get random gorgeous girls. I’m 18, so that makes me horny as fuck and I don’t really care about ‘top quality’ women.

If you have any quicker ways to get women into bed aside from a ton of compliance and sexual tension, let me know, so I can use them.” – Robert K. from Newark, NJ

Derek Rake’s Answer:-

The secret to getting a girl to go home with you fast is this:

A. Timing. You have to be with the right girl at exactly the right time. There is no way you can bat 1000 girls in 15 minutes.

B. Sexual Tension. A ton of it. She really needs to want you.

C. Compliance. If you want her to go with you, you have to get her to work for you.

You should know about these things by now, so I’m just here to tell you to actually use them before escalating things. Hard!

Fast escalation happens to be the secret to get girls to either love or hate you fast. This will, in turn, fix your wasted time and problems with hornyness!

“I’m absolutely horrible at telling people how I feel, be it about love or anger or whatever. I’m also scared of escalating things. A lot of gurus say that one solution to this would be to read more about sex. Well, I have and it hasn’t helped. Another thing: how can I sleep with someone? Do I just tell her? A lot of gurus don’t specify how to do this, and a lot of the advice I read has more to do with clubs. How can I get myself a fuck buddy? I hate clubs and I’m in college, so how can I get a girl to be my fuck buddy? How can I approach a girl I like in college? What if I just want to sleep with somebody I meet here? College has an extremely tight circle going on, so should I just tell her I want to sleep with her? I believe that the girls here only sleep with their boyfriends. Damn!” – Kevin B. from Arlington, VA

Derek Rake’s Answer:-

That is a lot of questions, so let me try to group them together to deal with the bigger, overarching themes:

Firstly, how can you express yourself fully? Well, that’s easy. Just concentrate on your focus. Provided you concentrate on the proper things, you will be in a good state and have unobstructed and clear self-expression overall.

Secondly, how can you sleep with someone in college? There were two questions to that, too. Alex, you’re taxing me here. 😉

First of all, you need to know how to escalate things with a woman in a smooth manner. And, no, you should never verbally ask her for sex. As a matter of fact, I would greatly suggest that you get a copy of SeductionOnSteroids, so you can read the Seducers Blueprint since I can’t explain all of it here. However, you need to trust me – once you read it, your problems on escalation will be solved for good.

Now, if you have no idea where to meet college girls aside from bars, well, there’s a simple answer to that, too, Alex: house parties. They happen to be real killers. High social proof and networking. Plus, women there itch to bed guys.

College happens to be a cake walk, so stop worrying so much and you’ll succeed much faster in the end.

“I’m a 44-year-old man (turning 45 in a few weeks) and the woman I love is only 31. When we met a few years ago, we hit it off instantly. Everything seems to be perfect with the two of us – aside from out big age difference, that is. She can’t seem to accept this. Now, I don’t want to sound cocky, but I’m not like every other 44-year-old man out there. People say I’m good-looking and I’m also a bodybuilder who works out every day – a nationally ranked one, too. I am an open class competitor and compete against men who are decades younger than me. I’ve never fallen below second place so far. No grey hairs yet, either. Whenever people ask for my age, I always have to whip out my driver’s license as proof. This makes me very proud. When I started going out with this girl, she told me that when she is alone or with somebody else and some other guy looks her way, she knows it’s because of her looks; but whenever she is out with me and some guy looks, she knows he is looking at me. This doesn’t seem to bother her, though. She has already told me that the only thing stopping her from being with me is my age, though she has also mentioned that this doesn’t exactly rule us out. She would rather find somebody her own age, but each time she fails in her pursuit, she runs back into my arms. I am also dating other people, but I only want one girl: her. What should I do? I want to fix this.” – Justin M. from Bloomington, IL

Derek Rake’s Answer:-

Age is actually not what is holding you back here.

It really isn’t. I have dated women older than me and younger than me before – a decade apart on both counts, and age in itself is actually never the real problem. (Unless you have a minimum of two decades holding you apart. Then you need to take care of deeper things.)

It’s painful to say, but you’re stuck in the friend zone, dude. This means that you aren’t having sex. However, after a girl reaches her thirties, sex won’t get to lock the relationship down, either.

Simply put, you are looking for a serious thing and she isn’t, really. That pretty much translates to a death sentence in the dating and attraction game. So, here is the best advice that I can give for you right now:

Don’t see her for two months. Then talk to her while using the tactics that you learned here. This will give you a brand new start and a great shot at winning this girl over. The path that you’re on right now won’t lead you anywhere. Sorry.

“What makes women cheat and how can I stop girls from cheating? I would love to read what you have to say on this topic.” – Roger M. from De Kalb, IL

Derek Rake’s Answer:-

Why do women cheat? God, there are various reasons. Mostly, it boils down to them losing interest in who they’re with, especially when a dominant guy shows up to woo them.

This is why girls hardly ever leave bad boys – since these guys are always exciting, even weeks after hooking up with a girl.

How can you stop girls from cheating? The truth is: there is no answer for that. However, you can do your best by getting a ton of compliance.

This is why women do not leave their abusive husbands. Although they no longer feel safe with them, they will not leave because they have huge compliance.

Naturally, this doesn’t mean you should ever beat her, though. No, there are many more effective, better and much safer ways to get this done – as you might have seen in SonicSeduction.

“How were you able to locate naturals to chill with while learning and how were you able to check on your progress back then (I’m assuming you had a lonely start). I would also like to know whether conversation threads and routines are useful and where I would be able to locate them with the plethora of information available today. Lastly, although I can do cold reading, I still feel a bit awkward during social gatherings. Do you have any suggestions to get over this?” – Thomas S. from Northampton, PF

Derek Rake’s Answer:-

Actually, I had good luck when I started out. I met Simon right after I got frustrated from all of the rejection I experienced from women. He helped me out by introducing me to friends and that’s where it all began, really.

I know several places where you can meet such men. (Even though I still think you should concentrate on meeting women instead. This will be much better for you as more time goes by.) Some examples would be clubs and bars, most of all the popular ones, and well-known hang out spots.

I have also noticed that naturals usually choose certain jobs – those where they can be surrounded by hot chicks. (Sadly, a lot of the time, guys who truly succeed with women take such jobs, too, with hopes of meeting a lot of gorgeous women, so take heed of these guys.) These jobs would include nightclub promoters, strip club DJs, barber shop owners, and restaurant managers, to name a few. Just keep those eyes peeled and be open when meeting new people.

Now, when it comes to congruence, you will only have trouble with it if you use another person’s routines and lines. You should never do this. See, succeeding with women has a lot to do with the traits that women want in men. So, no matter what you say, she will get turned on, provided it comes from a great focus. And, in the end, you should make up personal things, so she can find out more about you anyway.